Thursday, December 12, 2019

December 12

Right after my ex wife moved out, one of my co workers warned me not to stay single for too long. She told me about her brother and how after he got divorced that happened to him. He became too set in his ways. Too resistant to letting anyone in. Too unwilling to compromise his time; his space. I did not pay it much heed because I did not think I would be single for that long. Turns out she was right and I was WAY wrong because I really do think I am done. Romance and love are just things I have now accepted I will not have for the rest of my life.

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Wednesday, December 11, 2019

December 11

I finished the single season of Mrs. Fletcher last night. As one who did not like the book, the show was better though the ending felt rushed. I ordinarily think shows tend to drag an episode or two longer than they should, but in this case, it felt like the opposite. There was not quite enough character development, the pinching of some story lines from the book became more noticeable (both Eve and her son were less sympathetic in the book than the show, there was more build up between Eve and her half-her-age co worker (with an underlying theme of employment discrimination threaded through)) and while the threesome that ended the season also occurred in the book, Eve's son didn't walk in on them. If there was a planned second season, I could see this making more sense, but it appears this was a one off. On the other hand, it did end on a note of ambiguity, which is something I think more shows should focus on. Something more open ended and less conclusive is not necessarily a bad thing.

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Tuesday, December 10, 2019

December 10

The weather has been lousy the past couple of days. Lots of rain and I have been out in it more than I would like. My mood has not been great, which does not help. I am just tired - mentally, physically, emotionally - I need some time away from the stresses of every day life and I can never seem to get it. 

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Monday, December 9, 2019

I Read 321 Books This Decade


1.  The Forever War, Dexter Filkins
2.  The Godfather Doctrine - A Foreign Policy Parable, John Hulsman & A. Wess Mitchell 
3.  Crash Course, Paul Ingrassia
4.  Hellhound on His Trail, Hampton Sides
5.  The Promise, Jonathan Alter
6.  The Big Short, Michael Lewis
7.  War at the Wall Street Journal, Sarah Ellison
8.  Lost Rights, David Howard (Book of the Year)
9. Mad Men and Philosophy, James B. South, Rod Carveth and William Irvin
10. Obama’s Wars, Bob Woodward
11. How to Become A Scandal, Laura Kipnis
12. The Highly Selective Dictionary for the Extraordinarily Literate, Eugene Ehrlich
13. Griftopia, Matt Taibbi


1. The Disappearing Spoon, Sam Kean
2. Tears of A Clown, Glenn Beck and the Teabagging of America, Dana Milbank
3. There’s A Word For It, The Explosion of the American Language since 1900, Sol Steinmetz
4. Quite Literally, Wynford Hicks
5. Endgame, Frank Brady
6. The Lover’s Dictionary, David Levithan
7. All Facts Considered, Kee Malesky
8. Rawhide Down, Del Quentin Wilber
9. Bryson’s Dictionary of Troublesome Words, Bill Bryson (2011 Book of the Year Finalist)
10. Mad as Hell, The Crisis of the 1970s and the Rise of the Populist Right, Dominic Sandbrook
11. At Home, Bill Bryson (2011 Book of the Year Finalist)
12. The Eichmann Trial, Deborah Lipstadt
13. The Lost City of Z, David Grann
14. The Psychopath Test, Jon Ronson
15. In the Garden of Beasts, Erik Larson
16. Fraud of the Century, Roy Morris
17. The President and the Assassin, Scott Miller
18. Game Six, Mark Frost
19. The Last Gunfight, Jeff Guinn
20. The Speech, Senator Bernie Sanders
21. The President Is A Sick Man, Matthew Algeo
22. Sex on the Moon, Ben Mezrich
23. A Billion Wicked Thoughts, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam
24. Destiny of the Republic, Candice Millard
25. Snoop, What Your Stuff Says About You, Sam Gosling
26. Should You Judge This Book By It’s Cover?, Julian Baggini
27. Red State, Blue State, Rich State, Poor State, Andrew Gelman
28. That Used To Be Us, Thomas Friedman & Michael Mandelbaum
29. Boomerang, Michael Lewis
30. Why Read Moby Dick, Nathaniel Philbrick
31. Maphead, Ken Jennings
32. The Professor and The Madman, Simon Winchester
33. Back To Work, President Bill Clinton


1. Just My Type, Simon Garfield (Book of the Year Finalist)
2. Confidence Men, Ron Suskind (Book of the Year Finalist)
3. Back To Our Future, David Sirota 
4. Worm: The First Digital War, Mark Bowden
5. Unsolved Mysteries of American History: An Eye Opening Journey Through 500 Years of Discoveries, Disappearances and Baffling Events, Paul Aron 
6. Would It Kill You To Stop Doing That? A Modern Guide To Manners, Henry Alford (Book of the Year Finalist)
7. Pity the Billionaire, Thomas Frank
8. The Fourth Part of the World, Toby Lester
9. The Lifespan of a Fact, John D’Agata & Jim Fingal
10. Monopoly - The World’s Most Famous Game, Philip Orbanes
11. Almost President, Scott Farris
12. Are All Guys Assholes?, Amber Madison
13. The FOX Effect, David Brock & Ari Rabin-Havt
14. The Tea Party & The Remaking of the Republican Party, Theda Skocpol & Vanessa Williamson
15. An Emergency in Slow Motion, The Inner Life of Diane Arbus, William Todd Schultz
16. The Plots Against the President: FDR, A Nation in Crisis and the Rise of the American Right, Sally Denton
17. Manhunt: The Ten Year Search for Bin Laden - From 9/11 to Abbotabad, Peter Bergen
18. Drift - The Unmooring of American Military Power, Rachel Maddow
19. Hubert’s Freaks, The Rare-Book Dealer, The Times Square Talker, and the Lost Photos of Diane Arbus, Gregory Gibson
20. The Escape Artists, Noam Scheiber
21. Do Not Ask What Good We Do, Robert Draper
22. Twilight of the Elites, Chris Hayes
23. The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg
24. Little America, Rajiv Chandrasekaran
25. The Violinist’s Thumb, Sam Kean

26. The Eighteen Day Candidate, Joshua Glasser
27. It’s Even Worse Than It Looks, Thomas Mann & Norman Ornstein
28. Superman, Larry Tye
29. How To Sharpen Pencils, David Rees
30. Several Short Sentences About Writing, Verlyn Klinkenborg
31. Spunk & Bite, A Writer’s Guide To Bold, Contemporary Style, Arthur Plotnik
32. The Gospel According to The Fix, Chris Cillizza
33. Ten And A Half Things No Commencement Speaker Has Ever Said, Charles Wheelan
34. Confront and Conceal, David Sanger
35. Final Victory, Stanley Weintraub
36. Acquainted With The Night, Christopher Dewdney
37. All Facts Considered, Kee Malesky
38. Red Ink, David Wessel
39. The New New Deal, Michael Greenwald
40. The Story of Ain’t, David Skinner


1.  What Are You Looking At? Will Gompertz
2.  On Saudi Arabia, Karen Elliott House
3.  The Books They Gave Me, Jen Adams
4.  A Walk in the Woods, Bill Bryson
5.  Good Prose, Tracy Kidder & Richard Todd
6.  Going Clear, Lawrence Wright (Book of the Year Finalist)
7.  Pound Foolish, Helaine Olen
8.  Quiet, The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, Susan Cain 
9. On the Map, Simon Garfield
10. Salt, Sugar, Fat Michael Moss
11. The Story of English in 100 Words, David Crystal
12. The Way of the Knife, Mark Mazzetti
13. The Unwinding, George Packer
14. 1969, The Year Everything Changed, Rob Kirkpatrick
15. Confessions of a Sociopath, A Life Spent Hiding in Plain Sight, M.E. Thomas
16. Banksy, The Man Behind the Wall, Will Ellsworth-Jones
17. Attached, The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love, Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
18. The Skies Belong To Us, Brendan Koerner
19. Lost Girls, An Unsolved American Mystery, Robert Kolker
20. Difficult Men, Brett Martin
21. Strange Rebels, Christian Caryl
22. This Town, Mark Leibovich
23. JFK’s Last Hundred Days, Thurston Clarke
24. Lapsing Into A Comma, Bill Walsh
25. Yes, I Could Care Less, Bill Walsh
26. Dallas 1963, Bill Minutaglio and Steven Davis
27. One Summer: America 1927, Bill Bryson
28. Double Down: Game Change 2012, Mark Halperin & John Heilemann
29. 1973 Nervous Breakdown, Andreas Killen
30. Hello, Goodbye, Hello Craig Brown
31. A Cruel & Shocking Act, Philip Shennon


1.  The Squared Circle - Life, Death & Professional Wrestling, David Shoemaker
2.  A History of Britain in Thirty-Six Postage Stamps, Chris West
3.  Still Writing - The Pleasures and Perils of a Creative Life, Dani Shapiro 
4.  The Poisoner’s Handbook, Deborah Blum
5.  All The Time In The World, Jessica Kerwin Jenkins
6. A Short Guide to a Long Life, Dr. David Agus
7. The New Jim Crow, Michelle Alexander
8. Appomattox, Victory, Defeat and Freedom at the End of the Civil War, Elizabeth Varon
9. Network, David Itzkoff
10. Ping-Pong Diplomacy, Nicholas Griffin
11. Tomorrow-Land, The 1964-65 World’s Fair & The Transformation of America, Joseph Tirella
12. It’s Not You, 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single, Sara Eckel
13. The Sixth Extinction, Elizabeth Kolbert
14. Flash Boys, Michael Lewis 
15. The Dylanologists, David Kinney
16. Talk to the Hand, Lynne Truss
17. You’re Not Special (and other encouragements), David McCullough
18. Divide, Matt Taibbi
19. Proof, The Science of Booze, Adam Rogers
20. On the Run, Alice Goffman
21. The Last Stand, Nathaniel Philbrick  
22. Bloody Spring, Joseph Wheelan
23. The Invisible Bridge, Rick Perlstein (Book of the Year nominee)
24. The Last Magazine, Michael Hastings
25. Show Your Work! 10 Ways to Share Your Creativity & Get Discovered, Austin Kleon
26. The Doors, A Lifetime Of Listening to Five Mean Years, Greil Marcus
27. Thirteen Days In September, Lawrence Wright
28. How To Be Interesting (In 10 Steps), Jessica Hagy (Book of the Year nominee)
29. All The Truth Is Out, Matt Bai (Book of the Year nominee)
30. Daily Rituals, How Artists Work, Mason Currey
31. The Politics of Life, Craig Crawford
32. Seven Bad Ideas, Jeff Madrick
33. Stuff Matters, Exploring the Marvelous Materials That Shape Our World, Mark Miodownik
34. A History of America in Thirty-Six Postage Stamps, Chris West


1.  The Lost Tribe of Coney Island, Claire Prentice
2.  The Biographical Dictionary of Literary Failure, C.D. Rose
3.  World Order, Henry Kissinger 
4.  Whatever Happened to the Metric System?, John Marciano
5.  Shot All To Hell, Mark L. Gardner
6. The Triangle, A Year On The Ground With New York’s Bloods & Crips, Kevin Deutsch
7. A Letter to My Cat, Notes to our Best Friends, Edited by Lisa Erspamer
8. Getting Back Out There, Susan J. Elliott
9. Citizens of the Green Room, Mark Leibovich
10. Mastermind, How To Think Like Sherlock Holmes, Maria Konnikova
11. The Great Beanie Baby Bubble: Mass Delusion & The Dark Side of Cute, Zac Bissonnette
12. America’s Bitter Pill, Steven Brill 
13. So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed, Jon Ronson
14. What If? Serious Scientific Answers to Absurd Hypothetical Questions, Randall Munroe
15. David and Goliath, Malcolm Gladwell
16. Dead Wake, Erik Larson
17. Missoula, Jon Krakauer
18. From Clueless to Class Act, Jodi R.R. Smith
19. Bad Days In History, Michael Faquhar
20. The Smartest Book in the World, Greg Proops
21. The Almost Nearly Perfect People, Michael Booth  
22. Superpower, Ian Bremmer
23. When to Rob a Bank: And 131 More Warped Suggestions & Well-Intentioned Rants, Stephen Dubner and Steven Levitt
24. The Death of Elvis, Charles Thompson and James Cole
25. Dog Whistles, Walk Backs, and Washington Handshakes, Chuck McCutcheon and David Mark
26. The Real Thing, Lessons on Love & Life From A Wedding Reporter’s Notebook, Ellen McCarthy
27. America 1908, Jim Rasenberger
28. The Perfection of the Paper Clip, James Ward
29. You Are A Badass, Jen Sincero
30. Magic Words, Tim David
31. One Man Against The World, The Tragedy of Richard Nixon Tim Weiner 
32. Showdown, Thurgood Marshall and the Supreme Court Nomination That Changed America, Wil Haygood
33. 1944, Jay Winik
34. Killing A King, Dan Ephron
35. Works Well With Others, Ross McCammon
36. The Obstacle Is The Way, Ryan Holiday


1. The Wilderness, McKay Coppins
2. Ghettoside, Jill Leovy 
3. Dreamland, Sam Quinones
4. F*ck Feelings, Dr. Michael Bennet and Sarah Bennett
5. The Confidence Game, Maria Konnikova (BoY finalist)
6. Dead Presidents, Brady Carlson
7. Too Dumb to Fail, Matt K. Lewis
8. I Never Knew That About New York, Christopher Winn (BoY finalist)
9. The Man’s Guide to Women, Douglas Abrams and John Gottman
10. Andy Warhol Was A Hoarder: Inside the Minds of History’s Great Personalities, Claudia Kalb
11. Life Reimagined: The Science, Art & Opportunity of Midlife, Barbara Bradley Hagerty
12. 50 Great American Places: Essential Historic Sites Across the U.S., Brent D. Glass
13. Between You and Me: Confessions of a Comma Queen, Mary Norris
14. Evicted, Poverty and Profit in the American City, Matthew Desmond
15. We Were Feminists Once, Andi Zeisler
16. The Time Traveler’s Handbook: 18 Experiences From the Eruption of Vesuvius to Woodstock, James Wyllie, Johnny Acton, and David Goldblatt
17. Shrill, Notes From A Loud Woman, Lindy West
18. Your Favorite Band Is Killing Me, Steven Hyden
19. Seinfeldia: How A Show About Nothing Changed Everything, Jennifer Armstrong
20. The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck, Sarah Knight
21. The World According to Star Wars, Cass Sunstein
22. Life Moves Pretty Fast: The Lessons We Learned From Eighties Movies, Hadley Freeman
23. The Best Worst President: What The Right Gets Wrong About Barack Obama, Mark Hannah
24. How To Be A Person In The World, Heather Havrilesky
25. American Heiress, Jeffrey Toobin
26. The Art of Rivalry, Sebastian Smee
27. Sixty, Ian Brown
28. Blood in the Water, Heather Ann Thompson
29. Going Red: The Two Million Voters Who Will Elect the Next President & How Conservatives Can Win Them, Ed Morrissey
30. How To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use, Dr. Randy Paterson
31. Whistlestop, John Dickerson
32. The Fix: How Nations Survive & Thrive In A World In Decline, Jonathan Tepperman
33. The Lion in the Living Room, Abigail Tucker
34. Ike’s Bluff, Evan Thomas 
35. How To See, David Salle


1. Prisoners of Geography, Tim Marshall
2. Table Manners, Jeremiah Tower
3. The Emotionary, Eden Sher
4. The Electrifying Fall of Rainbow City, Margaret Creighton
5. The Road to Little Dribbling, Bill Bryson
6. The African Svelte, Daniel Menaker
7. Future Sex, Emily Witt
8. A Path to Peace, George Mitchell with Alon Sachar
9. If Our Bodies Could Talk, Dr. James Hamblin
10. Arthur & Sherlock: Conan Doyle & the Creation of Holmes, Michael Mims
11. Dynastic, Bombastic, Fantastic, Jason Turbow
12. A Colony in a Nation, Chris Hayes
13. The One Cent Magenta: Inside the Quest to Own the Most Valuable Stamp in the World, James Barron
14. The Stranger in the Woods: The Extraordinary Story of the Last True Hermit, Michael Finkel
15. The Course of Love, Alain de Botton
16. The Death of Expertise: The Campaign Against Established Knowledge & Why It Matters, Tom Nichols
17. Killers of the Flower Moon, David Grann
18. Word by Word, Kory Stamper
19. The Only Language They Understand, Nathan Thrall
20. The Descent of Man, Grayson Perry
21. In Search of the Lost Chord, Jeffrey Goldberg
22. Last Call, Daniel Okrent
23. Grocery, Michael Ruhlman
24. Mid-Life Ex-Wife, Stella Grey
25. Paths to Happiness, Edward Hoffman
26. Caeser’s Last Breath, Sam Kean
27. Make Trouble, John Waters
28. The Lonely City, Olivia Laing
29. Mrs. Fletcher, Tom Perrotta
30. The Thousand Dollar Dinner, Becky Diamond
31. Vanishing New York, Jeremiah Moss
32. Fear City, Kim Phillips-Fein
33. Get Capone, Jonathan Eig
34. The Asshole Survival Guide, Robert Sutton
35. A First Class Catastrophe, Diana Henriques 


1. The Rooster Bar, John Grisham
2. I’ll Have What She’s Having, Erin Carlson
3. Breaking Bad: A Cultural History, Lara Stache
4. Perfect, Lew Paper
5. A World Without Whom, Emmy Favilla (book of the year)
6. The Trouble With Reality, Brooke Gladstone
7. Uneasy Peace, Patrick Sharkey
8. The Year of the Pitcher, Sridhar Pappu
9. Timekeepers, Simon Garfield
10. Vacationland, John Hodgman
11. Playing with Fire, Lawrence O’Donnell
12. Heating and Cooling, Beth Ann Fennelly
13. The Encyclopedia of Misinformation, Rex Sorgatz
14. Uncommon People: The Rise and Fall of the Rock Stars, David Hepworth
15. On Power, Gene Simmons
16. Political Tribes, Amy Chua
17. The Secret Lives of Color, Kassia St. Clair (book of the year)
18. Twilight of the Gods, Stephen Hyden
19. Men & Manners, David Coggins
20. The Master Switch, Tim Wu
21. Us vs. Them, Ian Bremmer
22. Picasso and the Painting that Shocked the World, Miles Unger
23. Hope Never Dies, Andrew Shaffer
24. The Personality Brokers, Marve Emre
25. The Fifth Risk, Michael Lewis
26. Broadway, Fran Leadon
27. The Secret Diary of Hendrik Groen Age 83 ¼, Hendrik Groen


1. The Death of Hitler, Jean-Christophe Brisard and Lana Parshina 
2. Bachelor Nation, Amy Kaufman 
3. Rise and Kill First, Ronen Bergman 
4. The Library Book, Susan Orlean
5. Camelot’s End, Jon Ward
6. Duped, Abby Ellin
7. How to Hold a Grudge, Sophie Hannah
8. The Elephant in the Room, Tommy Tomlinson
9. Mortal Republic, Edward J. Watts
10. The Grandmaster, Brin-Jonathan Butler
11. Dreyer’s English, Benjamin Dreyer
12. Okay, Fine, Whatever, Courtenay Hameister 
13. Bad Blood, John Carreyrou 
14. We Are Never Meeting In Real Life, Samantha Irby 
15. If We Can Keep It, Michael Tomasky
16. K: A History of Baseball in Ten Pitches, Tyler Kepner 
17. Guac Is Extra, But So Am I, Sarah Solomon
18. The Lost Gutenberg, Margaret Leslie Davis
19. You Could Look It Up, Jack Lynch
20. Best. Movie. Year. Ever. Brian Raftery 
21. A Lot of People Are Saying, Russell Muirhead and Nancy Rosenblum
22. Bullshit Jobs, David Graeber 
23. Rocket Men, Robert Kurson
24. I Like To Watch, Emily Nussbaum
25. Howard Stern Comes Again, Howard Stern
26. Norco ’80, Peter Houlahan
27. American Predator, Maureen Callahan
28. Elvis in Vegas, Richard Zoglin 
29. Wordslut, Amanda Montell
30. Republic of Lies, Anna Merlan
31. Talking to Strangers, Malcolm Gladwell 
32. The Day It Finally Happens, Mike Pearl
33. Because Internet, Gretchen McCullough 
34. She Said, Jodi Kantor and Meghan Twohey 
35. The Body, Bill Bryson
36. Semicolon, Cecilia Watson
37. Solid State, Kenneth Womack